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For many fearful fliers it seems easier to ignore it and imagine that a ‘cure’ will appear miraculously or that if you ignore it ….then it will go away.
All these thoughts and actions are very reasonable, after all, this is what fear is about.
The first action and commitment that you should make is that regardless of how you feel now you, you’ll make the best attempt you can. There are no rules that say you have to start now but do set yourself a broad timetable.
Rather than set a definite objective or goal define your aims more generally think of an outcome rather than an actual target. Think of climbing a part of the mountain…not reaching the summit in one go.
But you have to know, clearly and recognisably what your fear is about. You’ll need to sit down and write down all the thoughts and feelings that you have about flying from beginning to end. Read them through when ever you have the confidence to do so. Maybe a friend or partner could go through it with you…or write your story on the forum.
Get used to what your fears are. The confusion of thoughts needs to be organised so that you can see and understand them. Only then can you deal with them in a clear state of mind. After that, you’ll need to decide how you’re going to deal with each bit of your fear.
For instance, you might want to start with fact-finding, or you might need to find out about relaxation techniques or you might want to try to see things from a different viewpoint and there may be other things that you’ll want to consider.
What is certain is that there won’t be a miracle cure…if there is remember that it could go as quickly as it came. Be prepared to work hard to overcome your fear, expect set backs but keep notes of your progress so that you can re-build from any point if you have a set back. You can not ’hope’ to overcome your fear, you‘ll have to work at it. But have confidence, that like countless other people you are going to overcome your fear of flying and visiting this site is an excellent first step.
And a perfect second step is to rethink your ideas about air travel…why not think of taking a flight to somewhere near on a low cost airline and return by train or get a friend to pick you up and drive you home. What ever you invest in effort and money in overcoming your fear of flying you will find that it’s time, money and effort that is very well spent.
We’ll get you there.
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